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David Elfstrom david@elfstrom.com | April 1997 |
Keeping the journal on a computer is a good idea. You can print a selection of it any time you need one. How to organize the diary is up to you, but over time I have split up my journal into these sections:
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When you are talking with your doctor, remember to avoid being passive AND avoid being aggressive. Instead, be assertive. There is a good discussion with examples on being assertive at Mediconsult's web site.
Take a pen in with you and write down notes/answers to your questions next to your agenda items. If you can't write because of arthritis or other reasons, ask your doctor to write down key words for you.
KEY POINT: AVOID bringing published material and printouts to the appointment. (The only exception should be your little agenda sheet). Such information is distracting for your doctor. They love paper! I end up feeling ignored. Don't keep it to the end of the appointment and present it at the last minute, either. If you give it to him at the end of your appointment, the article may not get read, or it will distract the doctor from his next patient. It takes time for your doctor to read and digest new information.
Instead, fax / mail / drop-off the information BEFOREHAND with a covering note saying that you'd "like to discuss this at our next appointment, on March 23". I have never met a doctor who didn't appreciate this. However, when you do send them something, make certain that you READ it over three times yourself. Look up words in your medical dictionary. Learn to pronounce and spell the hard words. My rheumatologist was very impressed when I knew how to spell sulfasalazine, because he always got it wrong himself. If the words are very difficult, at least make your best effort to understand the introduction and conclusion, the important parts. Later, you can ask your doctor to clear up any confusion.
Doctors are people too, and anything you can do to make their task easier means they appreciate you more. You will earn their respect. The street goes two ways. Remember in school when you talked about your teachers outside? Guess what... they talked about their students too. The same applies to doctors. I've heard the receptionists and the doctors talk about their patients -- which ones they liked and which ones were annoying.
Treat the receptionists with respect too. They often get dumped on and can be real sticks in the mud at times. They have bad days just like everyone else. Be very friendly with them. Never get angry at them for a long waiting period. If it's a big concern, write it down in your journal, and bring it up with your doctor at the next appointment -- just don't be aggressive! Be assertive.
First of all, remember what I said about bringing paper into the meeting. DON'T bring in an article. Fax it a few days ahead of time with a small note. But there is something else to consider: the medium itself, and how it is delivered, rather than the message. A printout from the web (even this web page, I'm sorry to say) has less impact than a professionally-printed, multi-colored pamphlet. My doctors are well aware of the misinformation and scams present on the web. In fact, they instantly turn off when I say the "Internet". So, I've stopped saying "Internet" or "the web". Now I say, "This information is from a non-profit organization that specializes in ..."
Do all that you can to earn the respect of your doctor. To do this, you need to make your doctor's job easier. You've done that already by keeping a diary, being educated, using an agenda and being assertive. One extra skill that takes a lot of practice is clearing a mental path for your doctor to follow and allowing her to do her job. An example will help illustrate my point.
When I first started taking minocycline, I did not go to my doctor and say "I'm experiencing a Jarisch-Herxheimer Reaction". Leave the diagnosing to them - it's their job. Instead, describe the symptoms. If they don't make the connection, give them a hint, but be subtle. Pretend you just thought of it. Say "you know, I think I've heard about this type of thing before, only it was in people who had Lyme disease. They often get a fever after taking antibiotics too, don't they?" By leaving the diagnosing to your doctors but helping them along, you can safely leverage their knowledge and earn their respect at the same.
You see, it's entirely possible that you may be wrong. Once upon a time, I was convinced that the annoying thirst I was experiencing was due to methotrexate. After all, the drug book recommended I drink lots of fluid with this drug. But when I told my doctor about this, he said the medication I was taking could not cause me to be thirsty. The next time we met, I again told him that I was thirsty, and insisted it was the methotrexate. He sidestepped the issue and quietly snuck in some extra blood tests that I wasn't aware of. As it turned out, he uncovered a problem in my thyroid gland, something completely unexpected. I was correct to be assertive because the symptom turned out to be very important. But I was wrong to be telling him what my diagnosis should be. If I had brought up the subject differently, he would have told me what tests he was running instead of being secretive.
Always let doctors think of things for themselves. You're coming to the doctor to ask for their professional advice, not to tell them how to treat you. If you want to try IV-delivered antibiotic therapy for inflammatory arthritis, you'll have to guide your doctor so he will conclude on his own that IV antibiotic therapy will be beneficial. You can help by earning their respect and providing them with the information that they ask for. Sometimes it will take two or three more appointments. Stick with it, be assertive, be patient.
Hopefully you have found these suggestions beneficial. Go to it!
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